بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Wednesday, January 25, 2023

Tips: There Are Reasons Why Allah The Most Wise Doesn't Want Us To Befriend Certain People

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🗒️ Five reasons why Allah the Most Wise caused you to quit befriending certain souls whom He knows are actually bad for you, and detachment from them is really a blessing: 
1] Allah the Almighty saw how you were wasting so much time and energy whenever you were anywhere near them. For instance, you regularly spent two or more hours literally almost everyday chatting with them about futile issues and this fleeting dunya while you could be smartly utilizing those vacant periods to effectively strengthen your faith/Imaan by reading a lot about Islam and attentively listening to beneficial Islamic lectures. 
2] Allah the Almighty observed that in the hearts of those toxic individuals disguising themselves as "friends" linger undeniable envy, negative intentions and resentment. During the whole time they were pretending to vibe with you, they were just acting, intending to appear friendly only for their selfish gains. 
3] Allah the All-Knowing has seen how your companionship and closeness with them would have been so detrimental for your faith/Imaan and emotional well-being. 
4] Your willingness to open up to them at a point when you felt more at ease, revealing facts about yourself which are better kept confidential, was clearly known to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and He the Most Merciful prevented that from occuring for your own protection. 
5] Allah the Most Loving didn't want you to emotionally suffer whenever you had to tolerate listening to those narcissists' pointless chatter, absurd lies, frequent bragging, sinful gossip and abhorrent ridiculing of others. It's an evident sign that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala wants you to succeed in both worlds when He distances you from every insecure and inwardly miserable individual who lacks genuine interest in self-development as a Muslim and their unpleasant presence acts as an obstacle to your goals. 
Imagine a true friend called "A" and a group of colleagues with many characteristics or interests in common. This clique is connected to other groups that are conspiring against you as though they are nosy spies who envy your lifestyle, marriage life or achievements. "A" would do whatever they can to stop you from becoming "close friends" with those people to shield you from their awful agenda. One must be grateful Alhamdulillah to be far away from anything which could ultimately lead to fitna. 
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to An-Nawawi
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, knowingly telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 
By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is a mirror to his faithful brother. He protects him against loss and defends him behind his back." 
Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, 'The believer is a mirror to his brother. If he sees something wrong in him, he should correct it.' 
Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 239 
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani 

Sunday, January 22, 2023

Poem: Don't Fear Being Different As Long As You're In The Right Direction

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Dear fellow Muslimah, trust Allah the Almighty. 
With strong faith Imaan, never be affected by three: 
People's opinions of you - don't care how you're perceived; 
Temporary feelings - don't rely on how you feel; 
Large numbers - don't make choices based on majority.
~•~
Be like a real diamond. If this stone was placed near 
Decaying substances, the gem wouldn't disappear. 
Even if toxic posts on social media appear 
Daily, you remain unfazed by strangers' rants unclear. 
Their frequent complaints can't augment your worries and fears. 
~•~
This one cries "I'm lonely", that one "I've shed lots of tears. 
Nobody understands me. Why am I even here?" 
And several others online whine about severe 
Sadness or anxiety when "friends" disappeared, 
Forgetting the fact that Allah always sees and hears.
~•~
Be like a crow or eagle surrounded by white sheep, 
Not eager to sacrifice its feathers, wings and beak 
To blend in with mammals that have a weird tendency
To follow crowds and obey commands submissively. 
Don't shy away from being unique, to be more free.
~•~
Occasions when you were not invited were likely
Lessons to be more independent and to fully 
Depend on Allah Who knows what's best for you really. 
Purposeless socializing can disrupt your soul's peace.
Solitude turns to a gift when you spend time wisely.
~•~
If many wives complain "I hate my husband, as he 
Is too cheap and miserly.", don't be compelled to leave 
Your spouse because most females are influenced by greed. 
Don't copy the crowd. Don't be emotionally weak. 
No guilt in standing out as long as Allah is Pleased.
~•~
📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of piety), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah the Almighty than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Saturday, January 21, 2023

Poem: To Every Wife Who Needs To Make Sure Her Husband Never Cheats

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 "What tips can you share so my husband will never cheat?" 
"How can I ensure that my husband won't cheat on me?" 
And "Steps to prevent my zawj from cheating - advise, please?" 
If I were to receive those queries, I'd say: Let's see... 
So you wanna make sure that your hubby never cheats?
~•~
So your husband never cheats, ensure absolutely 
That every night and day, while he's awake and asleep, 
That each moment when he moves about, and as he breathes, 
That you're the only pretty female he likes to see, 
The only soul on earth who can sweep him off his feet. 
~•~
Make sure that all his colleagues are males and straight fully, 
That all his patients or clients and whoever deals 
With him directly and indirectly are only
Males who are married and loyal or who'd never dream 
Of going anywhere near lust and adultery. 
~•~
Ensure that no female ever shows up on his screens, 
And no female catches his attention in the streets, 
Not even one whisper from females flirtatiously 
Trying to talk to him, while he is contentedly 
Wed to just one wife - no urge to break his loyalty...
~•~
...like he's a machine or android compliant puppy 
Ready to follow orders and unable to feel 
Emotions - feelings which can make pretence appear real 
At times or cloud judgment so one can't decide clearly. 
Your husband's not flawless. He's like you - human being. 
~•~
Let him learn from his mistakes. You're flawed similarly. 
If ever you find out, through a loved one or colleague, 
That your husband has been acting overly friendly 
With another woman, keep calm and think carefully
Of the causes that led to him behaving oddly? 
~•~
Perhaps your disrespectful tone inspires him to flee, 
Or some jealous outsiders carried out sorcery? 
Or the lass he seems to like found him delightfully 
Attractive so she tried a love spell ignorantly? 
Or shaytan spoiled the peace when your faith/Imaan was weak. 
~•~
Trust Allah always. Pray for your husband frequently. 
Care for your spouse without being doubtful and clingy. 
Make your ego much smaller than your ability
To forgive. Join the brave who welcome polygyny. 
Love Allah more than your spouse. Love your man patiently. 
~•~
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibban 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Thursday, January 19, 2023

Tips: Seven Things You Can Do To Succeed In Causing An INTJ To Avoid You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Seven effective ways to cause someone with the INTJ personality type to despise you and unapologetically quit putting effort in trying to get to know you better: 
1❎ Prove to them that you're truly untruthful and untrustworthy. 
➡️ For instance: If they agreed to search around for some change for your 500 Pesos or Saudi Riyals and you clearly told them that you'd wait for them, make sure that you patiently wait for them instead of paying the courier by spending from your own money which you suddenly remembered. Otherwise find a way to properly compensate for showing them you can no longer be trusted. 
2❎ Accuse them of arrogance or act as though you perceive them to be arrogant, while you don't really know them and have never even had a meaningful conversation with them which lasted for more than five minutes. 
3❎ Show them that you're unreliable and/or disrespectful. 
➡️ For instance: Frequently make grammatical errors and typos on purpose, and intentionally refrain from capitalizing the first letter of their name. Doing this persistently can guarantee the INTJ to become utterly (but gladly) disinterested in befriending you and instead more eager to avoid you (and possibly anybody who is directly affiliated with you) as much as possible.  
4❎ Make it obvious that you're intensely envious of them by regularly excluding them from gatherings or outings in which mutual acquaintances are invited to, by gossiping and spreading negative rumors about them often, or by acting affectedly aloof. 
5❎ Appear uneasy or irrationally offended whenever the INTJ asks you several questions regarding yourself intending to become more well-acquainted with you. The more unreasonably nervous, apparently intimidated or insecure you seem around most INTJs, the more they'd do what they can to stay away from your disconcerting vibes to steer clear of emotional drama. 
6❎ Annoyingly poke them or be too touchy-feely when you've known them for less than a year and have never spent quality time together outside of school or the workplace. 
7❎ Continue doing something which you're aware that they dislike, or obstinately refuse to take their advice when you requested for some tips and they sincerely want you to do what is right. 
The above no-nos can also be applicable to other intuitive types, not just the INTJ personality.
~•~
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782
Sahih Muslim 2998
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Keep only a believer for a companion and let only a righteous person eat your food."
At-Tirmidhi and Abu Dawud
Reference: Riyaad As-Salihin 366
In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 366

Wednesday, January 18, 2023

Note: Why Many INTJs And INFJs Don't Have Long-lasting Friendships

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Three reasons why most INTJs (and a number of INFJs) may find some difficulty at times to maintain long-lasting friendships and why a lot of us are okay with not being "popular": 
1] INTJs are generally very goal-oriented. 
If an individual's presence is too toxic or so negative for us that they become like an intolerable obstacle to any of our goals, we won't hesitate to gradually distance ourselves from their bad vibes or instantly disconnect from them (online, in real life and emotionally) without necessarily informing them about our detachment the moment we realized they consistently distract us from our values... unless, in my case, they are part of my family then I try to maintain patience with all my relatives as much as possible. 
2] Most INTJs can be astoundingly supportive and fiercely loyal when they truly connect with someone whose temperament, communication style and main mission in life resonate with theirs. 
We don't want to show loyalty to the wrong person nor waste our emotions on meaningless causes or inauthentic and untrustworthy individuals.
3] Excessive socializing can sometimes be draining for many INTJ/INFJ personality types, particularly if we must pretend (out of courtesy) to like certain souls whom we don't gravitate towards. This is why we introverts tend to select our close friends carefully and with a purpose. 
Having more friends - actual friends, not mere acquaintances or neighbors - could entail more obligations, more responsibilities and more loved ones to worry about and check on regularly. A lot of INTJs can be satisfied with even one friend on earth, even if that "kindred spirit" happens to be their spouse, parent, sibling, cousin or aunt. 
~•~
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of a good companion and a bad companion is that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell (pleasant scent). As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
➡️ Some MBTI and cognitive functions test with more accurate results:
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https://personalitylingo.com/free-communication-style-quiz/
https://personalitylingo.com/thinker-communication-style/