Poem: Eleven Things I Love About My Dear Husband

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💚 Eleven things which I like and admire about him - 

The handsome man whom Allah the Most Wise has chosen 

To be my soulmate, other half and from my close friends: 

One:- I love that he lives for Allah, that he's Muslim. 

Two:- I love how with his mom he's got strong connection.

~•~

Three: I love his good efforts to care for his children, 

Ensuring that his kids receive proper upbringing 

And trying his best to support their education. 

Four: I love his voice whenever he's the Muadhdhin. 

Five: When he reads the Qur'an, his tone is amazing.

~•~

Six: I love how with his family he's kind, loving, 

So lenient, caring, forgiving and understanding. 

Seven: I love how he strives to stay safe when driving, 

That he's not a rude driver unlike immature men. 

Eight: I love his concern for his young and old patients.

~•~

Nine: I love his sense of humor, he's entertaining

And easygoing, able to make me laugh often. 

Ten: I love his courage, how he's not so demanding, 

And how I can never describe him as "arrogant".

Eleven: I love how I view him as a blessing - 

~•~

And gift from Allah the Most Kind to train my patience 

And contentment with the decree Allah has destined. 

Through my husband, Alhamdulillah, I've truly learned 

To be more patient with strangers, neighbors and loved ones, 

While awaiting his perfection in Jannah Heaven.

~•~ 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The world is enjoyment and the best (lawful) enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband.”

Source: Sunan Al-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Tirmidhi 

Ali Al-Qari said, “That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala).”

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātīḥ 5/2125

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Note: When You're Just A Stranger To An INTJ Don't Expect Long Talks With Them

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: As an INTJ-A personality type, what have you done or usually do when you believe that someone does not deserve to be a close friend but merely an acquaintance or another absolute and permanent stranger?

📝 Answer: Allahu A'lam. Alhamdulillah I've done at least one or more of the following when I have decided to discontinue trying to develop the connection and the person is just a casual acquaintance or neighbor: 

1. I unfriended them on Facebook for Allah's sake or if they deleted me from their list of "Facebook friends" I didn't bother asking them, despite being generally direct and straightforward, about their decision to delete because whatever claim or explanation they give is no longer of significance to me. 

2. I avoid checking their online profiles, reading their comments thoroughly and browsing around their uploads. So if they go on a trip to upload photos of themselves, desperately wanting me to "envy" what they post, they're simply wasting their time pretending to be all bubbly, uploading pictures and nonsense which I know aren't worthy of my attention. 

3. If ever I need advice or require valuable feedback about something important, they wouldn't even be considered as a dependable and trustworthy individual whom I can confide in. 

4. Even if I have some free time at a social event or workplace, I'd rather read from the Noble Qur'an, research more about Islam, use my cellphone, take a nap or look at a cat than initiate random conversations with an unreliable, clearly narcissistic or negative person. 

5. I'd knowingly refrain from sending them messages to thank them for "favors" or "gifts" given while it's typical for me to immediately express my appreciation for someone's kindness (if I'm aware of how to contact them) as soon as they do something helpful or generous. When it comes to family and relatives though, verbally thanking them face to face and regularly including them in my Du'as are sufficient in my opinion. 

Deliberately distancing myself from those whom I sense are not good for me and my faith/Imaan doesn't mean I'm "arrogant"; I don't want anything to do with artificial and badly brought up individuals who fail to inspire me to become a better Muslim and their bad vibes act as distracting obstacles to my goals.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah (The Almighty), hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) has perfected the faith."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung from the same hole twice."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782

Sahih Muslim 2998

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

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Poem: I'm Not Jealous Of Your Obsession With Dunya And Material Greed

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ To narcissists and egotists who assume wrongly 

That I "envy" their affluence and ability

To enjoy dining at fine restaurants frequently

And travel often to different cities/countries: 

I don't envy you. I'm not impressed by luxury.

~•~

You can tell me you own a yacht, traveled to Venice, 

Toured around Disneyland, became a wife at eighteen, 

Gave birth to triplets, have a twin, can speak Cantonese

Fluently as well as Urdu and some Portuguese, 

And still I won't feel envious. Don't suppose that, please.

~•~

You can claim you've got two mansions - in Spain and in Greece, 

Drive four cars - Ford, Lexus, Daewoo and Benz-Mercedes, 

Or restock your large wardrobes of branded clothes each week, 

And still I can't envy your possessions and money. 

I am not impressed by riches and material greed.

~•~

If you lack faith Imaan and kind personality, 

If pride in being "rich" makes you ugly inwardly, 

And if "selfish" describes you while you snub the needy, 

You'd be like a donkey wearing pearls and jewelry, 

Without purposeful goals, as deluded as can be.

~•~

Why would I wish to be like donkeys flaunting shiny

Gems and showy accessories while their disbelief 

And misconduct speak volumes about their misery?

They appear wealthy but they're sad in reality - 

Distressed they've attached themselves to things temporary.

~•~

Even if you can afford costly commodities, 

Or reside in spacious homes designed creatively, 

I wouldn't bring myself to make room for jealousy, 

Since envying others shows you doubt Allah's Decree, 

And contented Muslims don't get jealous easily.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith (Imaan) are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look at those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125

Sahih Muslim 2963

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There is no envy but in two cases: A man whom Allah (The Most Wise) has given wealth and he spends it rightly (for Allah's sake), and a man whom Allah has given wisdom and he judges and teaches others with it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 73 

Sahih Muslim 816

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it devours good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti 

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Poem: Why Cry Over Someone When The Friendship Never Did Exist

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 To those who are not my family and relatives, 

While they themselves witness they're experts at foul gossip 

And acting like they're kind while they're actually selfish, 

Often threatening to leave like a vain narcissist, 

And guessing I'll be upset when they "play hard to get": 

~•~

Trust me when I say this: When I call it quits, I quit - 

If you think I'll "cry over" the death of this "friendship", 

I'd respond "what friendship? Such bond never did exist. 

True friendship isn't built just through the exchange of gifts, 

But by sharing the same goals and staying supportive, 

~•~

By having meaningful convos with every visit, 

Ensuring that each other's faith and name are shielded, 

Protected from the toxic, negative and jealous, 

And by fighting ugly pride so both sides can forgive. 

Yes, while I forgive you, to me, you can't be trusted.

~•~

Now if I don't trust you, not even a single bit, 

By your acts and claims I'm not easily affected, 

And it won't surprise me when you break more promises - 

Because I'm used to it - the fact you can't be trusted, 

And whenever you act out, I know you're just jealous. 

~•~

Even if you drive a car, even if you're "so rich", 

And even if you "enjoy" lots of outings and trips 

With other similarly sensitive narcissists, 

I won't regret discontinuing this fake "friendship" 

Since your disconnection gives space to much better gifts - 

~•~

Special gifts from Allah, blessings countless and obvious 

In seeking and implementing Islamic knowledge, 

Far away from invented lies, nonsense and gossip. 

You're older than me and supposed to be mature yet 

If you stood near monkeys they'd seem more educated.

~•~

If your bad vibes mostly cause me to be distracted, 

And each time you're nearby I feel equally stupid, 

Ignorant, immature, childish or inauthentic, 

Then in your companionship I'm uninterested.

We don't talk much nowadays - that's the way I like it."

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah (The Almighty), hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782

Sahih Muslim 2998

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

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Poem: When You're Satisfied With Allah's Love, You Won't Feel "Lonely" Easily

💐 In the Name of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ What's wrong with looking "lonely" if solitude implies

Sweet contentment with the Love of Allah the Most Wise,

While staying cautious with one's choice of friends day and night? 

To have no or only few friends shouldn't be a crime 

If it brings you more chances to strive for Paradise, 

~•~

If it means protection from people's gossip and lies, 

Distance from pretending to like those whom you despise 

Due to vast differences or past disputes online, 

And if having a few or no close friends signifies

More free time to study and learn Islam day and night.

~•~

Nothing wrong with appearing "lonely" if from inside 

You're contented with the Love of Allah the Most Wise, 

And through reading from the Qur'an you feel satisfied, 

With inner peace, away from false news, rumors and lies, 

Far from fake laughter, disgraceful pride and jealous eyes.

~•~

Few or no close human friends can also signify 

More opportunities to save money so at times 

You do charity rightly to please Allah Most Kind. 

Friends can influence you; they can inspire or misguide - 

Choose wisely those who won't distract you from Paradise.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those in solitude have raced ahead." They said, “O Messenger of Allah, who are those in solitude ('al-mufarridoon')?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are men and women who remember Allah a lot."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2676

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Three things follow a deceased person. Two of them return and one remains. His family, his wealth, and his deeds follow him (to the grave). His family and wealth return, but his deeds remain (with the person in the next life)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6149

Sahih Muslim 2960

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Nu'aym reported: Fudayl ibn ‘Iyad, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “If you mix with people, mix with those who have good character; it only invites to good. Do not mix with those who have bad character, for it only invites to evil.”

Source: Ḥilyat Al-Awliyā’ 11728

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