بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Wednesday, January 18, 2023

Note: Why Many INTJs And INFJs Don't Have Long-lasting Friendships

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Three reasons why most INTJs (and a number of INFJs) may find some difficulty at times to maintain long-lasting friendships and why a lot of us are okay with not being "popular": 
1] INTJs are generally very goal-oriented. 
If an individual's presence is too toxic or so negative for us that they become like an intolerable obstacle to any of our goals, we won't hesitate to gradually distance ourselves from their bad vibes or instantly disconnect from them (online, in real life and emotionally) without necessarily informing them about our detachment the moment we realized they consistently distract us from our values... unless, in my case, they are part of my family then I try to maintain patience with all my relatives as much as possible. 
2] Most INTJs can be astoundingly supportive and fiercely loyal when they truly connect with someone whose temperament, communication style and main mission in life resonate with theirs. 
We don't want to show loyalty to the wrong person nor waste our emotions on meaningless causes or inauthentic and untrustworthy individuals.
3] Excessive socializing can sometimes be draining for many INTJ/INFJ personality types, particularly if we must pretend (out of courtesy) to like certain souls whom we don't gravitate towards. This is why we introverts tend to select our close friends carefully and with a purpose. 
Having more friends - actual friends, not mere acquaintances or neighbors - could entail more obligations, more responsibilities and more loved ones to worry about and check on regularly. A lot of INTJs can be satisfied with even one friend on earth, even if that "kindred spirit" happens to be their spouse, parent, sibling, cousin or aunt. 
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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of a good companion and a bad companion is that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell (pleasant scent). As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
➡️ Some MBTI and cognitive functions test with more accurate results:
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https://personalitylingo.com/free-communication-style-quiz/
https://personalitylingo.com/thinker-communication-style/
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Poem: Why I Believe That My Husband Is Handsome While Not All May Agree

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
💌 If you ask me, "So what is it? What makes him handsome, 
Your husband, the man whom Allah has wisely chosen 
As your soulmate, travel partner to Jannah Heaven, 
And special friend with whom you have a lot in common? 
What makes him attractive really in your opinion?"
~•~
I'd say: Yes he's handsome; my husband is good-looking 
And appealing in a way not clear to everyone. 
He's like a wooden treasure chest filled with diamonds
And tons of emerald gems which worms and elephants 
Would perceive as "plain", "pointless" or "uninteresting", 
~•~
While he's valuable to me - my husband is handsome 
Since he's a gift to me from Allah the Most Loving.
I've witnessed countless times my handsome spouse has proven 
To be caring, busy, productive and hard-working. 
Though not very athletic, he's got my attention. 
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His efforts to serve Allah, his sincere intention
To save up to perform Hajj with his hard-earned income, 
His charisma with children, patience with his patients, 
And his eagerness to become a better Muslim 
Are from my reasons for regarding him as handsome.
~•~
To me, he's more handsome than the "hottest pop icons" 
And him having a pure heart is much more important 
Than staying in shape and pampering his appearance. 
I'm grateful to Allah for granting me my husband, 
My handsome husband who taught me about contentment.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things: Her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman otherwise you will be a loser."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090
In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
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Tuesday, January 17, 2023

Note: To Stay Contented With Your Husband, Appreciate The Many Ways You're Both Alike

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 One of the many secrets to remaining grateful to Allah the Almighty for the marriage and unique love story which He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala wisely planned for you is to appreciate at least three qualities which you and your husband have in common. 
Alhamdulillah. Seven ways in which my dear husband and I are very much alike: 
1] My husband and I used to be slim back in our late teens. After marriage, we both could be described as overweight or thickset.
2] Before I was born in Saudi Arabia, my dear mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) gave birth to a baby boy but he died as a newborn (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.). My husband also had a brother who passed away before he was born (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.).
3] There was a time when I often played soccer during P.E. subject with some of the girls during high school. If I'm not mistaken, my husband also played soccer/football when he was in college. 
4] Alhamdulillah we both can read text in Arabic language without the harakaat / vowels. 
5] My husband and I can be talkative, quiet, serious, funny or corny depending on the situation. 
6] We try our best to be thrifty and generous instead of being overly materialistic, obnoxiously selfish and unreasonably demanding. 
7] Even though we're aware of how certain individuals despise us, we prefer to forgive those Muslims for Allah's sake, distance ourselves from any negativity and confidently move on. Indulging in futile drama and attempting to reconcile with toxic people don't intrigue us. 
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is provision and the best provision in the world is a righteous woman."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Imam Muslim
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Sunday, January 15, 2023

Note: As An INTJ What Was Your Childhood Like

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: With INTJ as your MBTI personality type, what was your childhood like? 
📝 Answer: Alhamdulillah some of the things I did as a child (in the 90s back in Saudi Arabia) to give you an idea of what some INTJ children are like: 
1] Eating the polvoron (Philippine delicacy consisting of toasted flour, sugar, butter and powdered milk) which my dear mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) made for me during recess time while many of my Arab male and female classmates in kindergarten (at Al-Yamama National School) were staring at me probably wondering why I was nonchalantly trying to consume sand particles in a lunchbox. Strangely I didn't feel anxious about the worried stares and some laughter. 
2] While my mom (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) was attending some Islamic lectures with other Muslimahs at one of the WAMY branches in Riyadh city (WAMY: World Assembly Of Muslim Youth where we also learned more about Islam and basic Arabic language) I remember trying to figure out, with some kids of varying ages and nationalities, how to go inside a locked play area. Some days later I brought a pair of scissors and cut open a portion of the net of the trampoline playground from one of its corners (not sure what it's called - it had a slide and bouncy surface with multicolored balls etc.) and invited some of the children to join me through the secret opening (I cut the net in such a way that the hole wasn't very obvious). I guess I wasn't well-mannered enough as a child to request one of the adults to simply unlock the door leading to the playground. May Allah the Most Merciful forgive all my mistakes, misjudgment and ignorance. Ameen. 
3] Back in Riyadh Saudi Arabia, my family and I usually prayed Salat Al-Jumuah at one of the large mosques / Masaajid which I assume was constructed by some of the royal families (not sure if the Masjid is called Al-Rajhi Mosque?). After the Friday Khutbah or lecture, we and other Muslim families occasionally had lunch together at one of the palaces of a Saudi royal family. The invitation to have lunch there (for those who prayed at the Masjid regularly) was a form of Sadaqa/charity I believe. While waiting for the chefs and staff to prepare the long dining tables, I recall walking around, again with a number of children, and curiously exploring different parts of the lavish palace which I thought visitors were allowed to tour until several parents advised us to behave ourselves and refrain from going to the other guest halls unnecessarily. I also remember sometimes walking around various rooms at the WAMY branch for women, imagining what it would be like if I could design my own building or office. For some reason, when I was around eleven or twelve years old I would often daydream about running an orphanage where orphans are cared for well. 
4] I remember quietly waiting for the bus to be filled with other students and noticing two noisy Arab girls who were around my age that time blatantly joking to each other about how I appeared (at least to them) to be mostly frowning. I think it's interesting how I didn't feel offended or embarrassed by their mockery even when there were many passengers around. Although we exchanged glances, I didn't bother answering back because not only was I unaware of how to respond eloquently in Arabic language but I thought they were spot-on regarding my occasional scowl. I'm guessing I was in fourth or fifth grade that time. 
5] Since I was the only Filipino student among Saudis and other Arabs, from grades one to seven I didn't have a fixed group of close friends, particularly as I wasn't really talkative due to not being fluent that time in Arabic language. During recess I would typically stay in the classroom reading some books, rearranging my bag or trying to complete some assignments in advance, or if the students weren't allowed to linger aimlessly in the classrooms I would take a leisurely walk around the school campus or browse around the library while reflecting on random thoughts until it was time for the next class. While there were moments when I actually played some running games with several students of various grade levels, I preferred reading books to participating in loud group activities. 
➡️ Some of the qualities shared among INTJ children: 
1] They tend to ask lots of questions and become apparently curious when they're interested in a particular subject. 
2] Unlike the more sensitive types, INTJ children don't cry or get ashamed easily. 
3] They can be extremely picky with their choice of friends and seldom do they feel "lonely". 
4] If you describe INTJ kids as "nerds" or "weirdos", most if not all of them would perceive those words as compliments. 
5] They're more likely to enjoy solving puzzles and riddles or learning something new than partaking in projects which involve unproductive socializing.
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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
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Poem: Advice To Those Who Find It Challenging To Make And Keep Friends

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Some advice to Muslims who struggle with making friends, 
To those who build connections most of which quickly end, 
To those who wonder why it's hard for them to fit in 
And who no longer trust individuals who pretend
To like you while harboring envy and resentment: 
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Don't care about how people see you. Show no concern 
For the censure and brief feelings of Allah's servants, 
Specially while serving Allah and you don't intend
To propagate oppression but seek self-improvement.
Only Allah can judge us on the Day of Judgment.
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It's one of Allah's tests for some of His creation 
To often feel "left out", "misunderstood" or "lonesome". 
One reason why some acquaintances are reluctant 
To send you invites to their their gatherings or outings 
Could be jealousy - they hate it when you outshine them. 
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Perhaps they simmer with bitterness when your presence 
Reminds them of their failures and flaws which bother them. 
Maybe they loathe how you're blessed with successful parents
While theirs failed to give them Islamic education 
And good manners. They feel pathetic when you're present.
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Or they resent the fact that you're relaxed from within, 
Beautified with firm faith Imaan and real confidence. 
Like snakes which find no use in gliding near diamonds 
And like bats which shy away from brightly lit lanterns, 
They exclude you when your glow and success distress them. 
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Remain unfazed, unaffected and indifferent 
When unhappy humans act unfriendly and distant. 
Remind yourself "I wasn't born to entertain them. 
Whether they meet me with goodwill or unacceptance, 
I'm still complete. Allah's Love is much more important." 
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Keep yourself busy worshipping Allah, researching
More about Islam, and praying for Allah's Guidance. 
Frequently read from the Qur'an. Your righteous actions
Can be companions in your grave when life on earth ends. 
Solitude that leads to Allah's Love is a blessing.
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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Three things follow a deceased person (to the person's grave). Two of them return and one remains. His family, his wealth, and his deeds follow him. His family and wealth return, but his deeds remain (with the dead in their graves)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6149 
Sahih Muslim 2960
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638 
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah loves a servant who is righteous, independent, and obscure (unknown, unpopular, not famous)."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2965
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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