Poem: Even If We're Far From Some Loved Ones, Allah The Almighty Is Always Near

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 To one of my brothers who, with Allah's Will, shall soon 

Travel to study so more of his skills can improve, 

And to those brothers in Islam who can relate too 

Regarding learning as adults in a place that's new

And far away from their loved ones - some advice for you:

~•~

Recall our main purpose; the reason we're here is to 

Worship no one except Allah the Almighty Who 

Always took care of us while we were in our mom's womb.

Allah never left us even if people eschewed

Our presence at times. Allah sees us all through and through.

~•~

Your family and loved ones, and souls who were meant to 

Connect with you, with Allah's Will, are like me and you

In terms of being temporary - we're not here to 

Live on earth forever nor to each other stay glued. 

This world's full of tests. As Muslims we accept the truth.

~•~

Even leaves get dry after some time, flowers fade too, 

And a number of Allah's servants gradually lose 

Touch with those they used to love while others need to choose

Between tough options. More tests from Allah shows that you 

Are special to Allah Who wants your faith to improve.

~•~

Trust Allah. You're not alone. There are many men who 

Cope well, with Allah's Will, while in other countries to 

Work or take courses despite not being able to 

Be near their loved ones. It's okay. Allah is with you.

Jannah's where you can reunite with those who miss you.

~•~

Stay busy with good thoughts. Allah knows what's best for you. 

Many from Allah's Prophets ('alaihim as-salaam), and from the pious, too 

Had to live far away from loved ones in order to 

Attain more blessings, and sometimes success could include 

Sacrificing for Allah because your faith is true.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah (The Almighty) than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase 'if only' opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://abukhadeejah.com/three-categories-of-patience-sabr-the-four-states-when-afflicted/

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Poem: I'm Not Jealous Of Any Female. Stop Lying To Yourself.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Please, stop lying to yourself through falsely assuming

That I'm "jealous" of your appearance or achievements. 

Don't waste your time desperately scheming and plotting

Ways to make me "envy" your nonsense and lame acting. 

shaytan was prone to jealousy - I don't applaud him.

~•~

You can wear gold jewelry, afford diamond rings, 

Own items with emerald, rubies and other gems, 

And take pride in your large income or job position, 

And, with Allah's Will, I won't, not for any moment, 

Wish I were you or wish I were another person.

~•~

I don't wish to be you, since I'm blessed with contentment, 

And know that Allah the Most Wise already destined 

And designed the gifts and life journeys of His servants.

Why would I envy donkeys partying in mansions

Or feel threatened by monkeys flaunting trash they've stolen? 

~•~

So long as you don't believe that Allah is our King,

And as long as within you lingers discontentment, 

While you spy on others' lives online very often, 

I won't be feeling envious of your deceptions. 

shaytan's a jealous type; I don't wish to copy him.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it devours good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Envy consumes good deeds just as fire burns wood. Charity (Sadaqah) extinguishes sinful deeds just as water extinguishes fire. Prayer is the light of the believer and fasting is his shield from the Hellfire."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4210

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Ibn Asakir

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith (Imaan) and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the beloved Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a (true Muslim) servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

https://www.salafisounds.com/ten-evil-consequences-of-envy-jealousy-by-abu-khadeejah-abdul-wahid/

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/07/poem-what-undue-jealousy-does.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/12/tips-advice-on-dealing-with-narcissists.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-clear-signs-of-jealous-people-even.html

Links: Online English Translation Noble Qur'an (pdf document not for sale)

 بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

💎 Online English translation of the Noble Qur'an:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1J0jNhGWBGDisA7kDuw24iFhT3i75w2Yv/view?usp=drivesdk

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1J0jNhGWBGDisA7kDuw24iFhT3i75w2Yv/view?usp=drivesdk

Poem: Never Advise Loyal Wives To Divorce. We'd Know You're Only Joking.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 From the worst advice anyone can provide, in my 

Opinion is "Your husband doesn't seem to spend time 

With you a lot. Of his busyness aren't you tired? 

Are you not fed up with how he's so preoccupied

With work? When will you decide to find another guy?"

~•~

Excuse me? Don't act as if you care about my life. 

Don't dish out tips regarding love if you've never tried 

Sacrificing your ego/pride to do what is right -

To stay as your husband's patient friend and loyal wife.

Don't advise if you don't know what loyalty is like.

~•~

Marriage won't separate you from trials, stress and strife. 

It's not an end goal, but means to Jannah Paradise. 

It's like a challenge accepted by the brave and wise 

Who won't quit the journey when some paths are blocked by ice, 

Aware that storms and winter eventually subside.

~•~

Anger is temporary, fights can be put aside, 

And forgiving becomes easy when you discard pride, 

When your drive to please Allah Above the seven skies 

Is stronger than your need to tell your husband "See? I 

Was right. I knew it. You should've taken my advice."

~•~

Don't claim "You're not old yet. You can find a better guy." 

Unless you're fully certain that such male never cries, 

That he can't feel emotions and he never gets tired, 

And he knows the best shortcut to Jannah Paradise. 

Don't even bribe me to stop being my man's first wife.

~•~

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Any woman who asks her husband for a divorce when it is not absolutely necessary, the fragrance of Paradise will be forbidden to her."

Sunan Ibn Majah 2055

In-book reference: Book 10, Hadith 40

English translation: Vol. 3, Book 10, Hadith 2055 

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-if-my-husband-wanted-divorce-id.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/09/poem-if-divorce-was-door-id-never-want.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/10/poem-divorce-is-permissible-but-its.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/poem-divorce-may-lead-to-regret-if-you.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/note-dont-be-too-quick-to-ask-for.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/09/tips-5-probable-reasons-why-shaytan.html

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/16999/%D9%85%D8%B9%D9%86%D9%89-%D8%AD%D8%AF%D9%8A%D8%AB-%D8%A7%D9%8A%D9%85%D8%A7-%D8%A7%D9%85%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%A9-%D8%B3%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AA-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B7%D9%84%D8%A7%D9%82

https://youtu.be/a55_gXRWnUI

Tips: Some Advice On How To Cope With Friendship Groups Of 3 Or 5 So You Don't Feel Like The "Third Wheel"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Some advice from an INTJ-A on how to stay confident, for Allah's sake, when you're in a group of three or five friends, some tips on how to not feel "left out" occasionally: 

1. Always remember that the main purpose of our existence is to worship and serve our Only Creator Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, not our ego, not our feelings and surely not anybody from society. 

2. When two of your friends are having an audible conversation with each other while you believe that the topic which they're discussing could involve you, such as school projects or plans for an Eid gathering, you can attentively listen to their discussion with willingness to learn something valuable and comment or ask questions when necessary. Otherwise, if whatever they're chatting about is currently something you can't relate to, you may utilize your cellphone productively or instead quietly look around your surroundings while saying Dhikr until their next subject being discussed involves you. 

3. Avoid appearing annoyingly clingy and desperate, as if your entire livelihood and self-contentment depend on their connection with you. How Allah the Almighty sees us is much more important than how fellow imperfect slaves perceive us. 

Know when to appropriately speak while acquaintances are around and be humble enough to respect certain boundaries as much as you can. There's no need to nosily inquire about all the details if two or more of your friends are talking about something that is irrelevant to your goals and attempting to disrupt the flow of their dialogue would only make them feel uneasy.

4. Appreciate the fact that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala has blessed you with other souls, including your loving parents and/or supportive spouse, whom you also care about for Allah's sake and they value your occasional input or contributions. This trio or tiny circle of friends shouldn't be the only group that you're willing to network with. It's possible to remain in touch with them while there are instances when you somehow feel like an outsider, due to dissimilarity in terms of your primary interests, yet you still maintain stable friendships with other Muslims who probably reside in a different city and/or with a number of your cousins. 

5. Since you're already aware of how "feeling left out" feels, courageously and confidently use that as an effective reminder to never treat others in the same obnoxious manner as those two or more individuals have treated you whether their ostracizing was done unknowingly, unintentionally or deliberately for no other reason than pacifying their insecurities or intense envy towards you.

~•~

📖 Narrated 'Abdullah RadhiAllahu 'anhu: The noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When you are three persons sitting together, then no two of you should hold secret counsel excluding (on purpose) the third person until you are with some other people too, for that would grieve (sadden/upset) him."

Reference: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6290

In-book reference: Book 79, Hadith 62

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 8, Book 74, Hadith 305

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah (The Almighty) than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah (The Almighty) has decreed what He (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) 

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