Note: What Many INTJs Respect - Authenticity, Reliability And Strong Personality

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: As a Muslimah whose MBTI personality type is INTJ-A, what are some things which if a person does can increase your respect for them? In your opinion, what makes someone respectable? 

📝 Answer: If... 1] They sincerely try their best for Allah's sake to remain honest, trustworthy and dependable. For instance, if they're a colleague, they avoid slacking and frequent absences as much as possible. 

2] It's obvious that they don't have any selfish agenda while they genuinely want what is best not just for their faith Imaan but also for others' spiritual well-being in both worlds. They're authentically generous, helpful and kind without expecting specific rewards from you in return. 

3] They're morally strong and confident enough to refrain from acting passive-aggressive whenever they deal with temporary negative emotions. Even if they may slightly dislike several individuals, they won't gossip about them, since cowardly backbiting is commonly an indication of the gossipers' intense envy. 

4] Flattery, compliments, rhetorical questions, criticism and people's opinions of them do not affect their feelings and goals at all. They strive to be persistent for Allah's sake in doing what they firmly believe can please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala regardless of what people say and perceive. 

5] They are always eager to learn more about Islam (without being "religiously arrogant"), apply the good lessons they've learned and generously share their knowledge with others online and offline for Allah's sake whenever they can. 

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📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah (The Almighty) wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it (the righteous deed) will erase it (the sin), and behave well with good character towards the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The merciful will be shown mercy by (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) the Most Merciful. Be merciful to those on the earth and the One (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) in the heavens will have mercy upon you."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1924

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: A bedouin asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam “When is the Hour (the Day of Resurrection)?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “What have you prepared for it?” The man said, “Love for Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) and His Messenger (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam).” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You will be with those whom you love."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3435

Sahih Muslim 2639

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

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Note: If you do at least 3 of these, you're an immature "adult"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Checklist to determine if you're emotionally immature (or insecure) and you seriously need to work on developing your good character - if you are guilty of at least three of these, you aren't a mature adult:

1. A lot of times whatever emotion you feel inside gets outwardly expressed in the form of morally inappropriate acts or negative statements. It's obvious that you let silly emotions control you most of the time. [   ] 

2. You're obnoxiously nosy, frequently spying on others' lives instead of minding your own business. Regularly stalking the online profiles of those whom you secretly envy or despise is one of your strange obsessions. [   ] 

3. You stupidly assume that it's alright to steal, scam and deceive others. [   ] 

4. Like an oversized bully whose gigantic ego gets hurt easily, one of the weird things you usually do is giving instructions to similarly ignorant or naive people to misbehave and mistreat others just so you can feel better about your discontented self (e.g. "when so-and-so arrives, pretend to ignore her. I want her to feel as awful as I did when she told me such and such. Don't answer her messages so she can feel how I felt when she chose to boycott my YouTube channel etc.". [   ] 

5. In many instances, particularly at several social events, you've displayed how terribly greedy and selfish you are. It would be an absolute lie to describe yourself as genuinely helpful, kind and generous. [   ] 

6. You always insist on being liked or admired by certain individuals. It's difficult for you to detach and move on from an indifferent person who clearly isn't willing to start any connection with you. [   ] 

7. Idiotically you believe that it's okay to invent lies just to inflate your gargantuan ego and make others feel "jealous". [   ] 

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📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah (The Almighty) wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing is heavier upon the scale of a believer on the Day of Resurrection than his good character. Verily, Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) hates the vulgar and obscene person (prone to wicked conduct and vile speech such as knowingly telling lies, backbiting, spreading rumors)."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2002

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Verily, among the best of you are those with the best character."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3366

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi

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Tips: Can an introvert wife stay contented with an extroverted husband? Of course

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: Is it possible for a wife to get along peacefully with her husband if she's an introvert while he's an extrovert? What do you usually do as an INTJ (1w9) to avoid conflict with your ESFJ (3w2) husband? 

📝 Answer: 1. Consistently remind yourself of the main purpose or multiple reasons why you willingly accepted your husband's marriage proposal in the beginning. If you truly love your spouse for Allah's sake, courageously forgiving him and maintaining steadfast patience (Sabr) with his shortcomings won't be challenging. 

2. Stubbornly recall all of your husband's admirable qualities as well as the numerous favors and loving gestures which he has undeniably shown you in the past and present (for example oftentimes feeding you with his right hand and generously sharing his meals with you even though you've got your own food, caring enough about you to provide sincere advice and correcting you whenever he notices you doing something wrong, attempting to make you laugh with his cute sense of humor every now and then etc.). 

3. For Allah's sake spend time together whenever you can through attending some family gatherings, particularly during Ramadan and Eid. Make it evident that you also care about his loved ones by frequently visiting them, at least once a month or every two months, and greeting them online when you're not busy. 

4. Let your husband know about your likes and dislikes, and familiarize yourself with what he prefers and what makes him uncomfortable. As his loyal and patient wife, refrain from unreasonably expecting him to be one hundred percent "perfect", and stay away from saying anything which could bring about pointless drama as much as possible.

5. As long as you both aren't doing what clearly displeases Allah the Almighty, genuinely be okay with letting him spend time with his friends and colleagues without interrogating him about every single one of his actions as if you can't trust him, just as you wouldn't want him to be the excessively jealous and insecure type of husband who prevents his wife from building meaningful connections.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e. her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090

In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'" 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Note: Showcase Any Of These 7 Bad Traits And I'd Gladly Avoid You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Seven things which if spotted in someone would inspire me (as an INTJ) to refrain from talking to them as much as possible (and never will I bother browsing around their social media posts) to preserve my faith / Imaan and overall well-being... if they: 

1. ...were caught gossiping about others more than twice or cowardly talking about me negatively. 

2. ...appear obviously nervous and uncomfortable around me numerous times as if they're more afraid of me than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem. 

3. ...display awful lack of manners while their evident disrespectful acts imply they're intensely envious of me. 

4. ...exhibit any form of enmity or animosity towards even one of my family members and relatives particularly if they question why my dear husband is deserving of my loyalty. 

5. ...are uninteresting, unreliable and ineffectual when it comes to communicating both online and face to face.

6. ...unreasonably expect me to be there for them "all the time" and to never say no to their requests. 

7. ...act passive-aggressive a lot, especially if they're older than me, and very often misconstrue many of my statements so much so that it's better to stay quiet if they're nearby when we are in the same venue than to initiate awkward conversations which could lead to unnecessary drama.

Allah the All-Knowing knows best. The souls whom Allah the Most Wise has destined for us to meet on earth are like books in a library which we can choose from before embarking on an important journey. We don't need too many reading materials for us to feel "fulfilled" and "complete" - just the right selection of few reliable books which we believe can 

Inn-sha-Allah cause our faith Imaan levels to increase. Gladly distance yourself from those with empty pages and meaningless content, and any writing that could negatively influence our self-esteem.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah (The Almighty), hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782

Sahih Muslim 2998

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is only that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell (pleasant scent). As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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Poem: Advice To Female Students Who Sometimes Deal With Sad "Mean Girls"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Quick advice to female students and those in their teens
Who sometimes deal with jealous girls who love acting mean
Or corrupt bullies who often make them feel "unseen":
Don't be saddened by sad clowns. Don't wish to join their team
Of lousy actors who are unhappy from within.
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Know that their silly efforts to spoil your self-esteem
Stem from their sorrow due to their insecurities
And extreme jealousy of your real inner beauty.
They resent how you're superior to them morally
And despise the fact they're destroyed emotionally -
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Emotionally destroyed by their intense envy
Of how you surpass them in manners, integrity,
Sincerity in striving to please Allah Only,
In being blessed with parents who want you to succeed
In both worlds, and in behaving better gracefully.
~•~
They're like uncivilized baboons or disturbed monkeys
Desperate to steal food from picnickers. Ugly greed
Compels them to treat people so disrespectfully.
So greedy for your attention, they try to mistreat
You to appease their threatened ego and misery.
~•~
Wherever you go, these bullies suffer inwardly
From envious feelings because your maturity
And gracious character make them feel like tiny beasts
Clearly angry that you're better than them morally.
They're jealous, that's for sure - don't absorb their misery.
~•~
For Allah's sake ignore their bad acting and gladly
Avoid them online and offline when you must, and be
Fiercely indifferent to their lies and fakery.
Be like an independent queen walking past dry leaves
That can't affect your strong faith/Imaan and self-esteem.
~•~
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah (The Almighty), hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi
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