بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Saturday, December 17, 2022

Note: From The Signs That A Muslim Husband And Wife Love Each Other For Allah's Sake Truly

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Allah the Almighty knows best. Seven signs that a Muslim husband actually loves his wife for Allah's sake even if they can't always be intimate or close to each other as often as they would like: 
1] He tries his best to regularly read her messages and answer her calls despite being busy or tired, even if many of his responses are delayed at times. 
2] He patiently listens to her whenever they have a chance to discuss matters face to face and offers whatever tips or words of reassurance that he can provide when she asks for his advice. 
3] He encourages his wife to have the strength to forgive others for Allah's sake and to be at peace with her parents, siblings and relatives instead of coercing her to go against her own family.
4] On a regular basis he mentions his wife in many of his prayers and supplications, beseeching Allah the Almighty to preserve her faith Imaan and well-being.
5] He is contented with his wife's beauty and body size or at least he doesn't keep arrogantly nagging her on striving to look "flawless". 
6] He allows her to massage, poke and tease him playfully from time to time. 
7] If ever he knowingly upsets or offends his wife, he goes out of his way to straightforwardly apologize or does something compassionate to compensate for his mistake.
✅ Seven signs that a Muslim wife sincerely loves her husband for Allah's sake even if they can't always be intimate or beside each other as often as they would like: 
1] She strives to avoid all of the means which could result in fitna and adultery, including making sure that none of the users on her Facebook "friends lists" is a male non-mahram. 
2] She ensures that she never acts like a flirt to anybody besides her dear husband, controlling her gaze whenever she can and refusing to stare at non-mahrams online and offline.
3] She does what she can to educate her husband more about Islam and the correct 'Aqeedah, occasionally sending several useful links to Islamic articles or lectures which her husband can benefit from. 
4] On a regular basis she mentions her husband in many of her prayers and supplications, beseeching Allah the Almighty to preserve his faith Imaan and well-being. 
5] She isn't a gold-digger at all. Whatever amount of allowance she receives from her husband is okay for her as long as she believes that his earnings are halal / lawful. 
6] She readily gives him gifts, edibles or items she hopes her husband would appreciate without wanting anything in particular in return. If ever she feels that she is unable to completely meet her husband's needs and permissible wants, for Allah's sake she lets him know that she is fine with him being married to up to four legal wives, while reminding him of the importance of treating his multiple spouses with wisdom and justice to the best of his ability. 
7] She encourages him to do more good deeds which can lead to Jannah Paradise including praying with the congregation in the Masjid (specially Salat Al-Fajr and Salat Al-Jumuah), performing Hajj pilgrimage, doing charity frequently, training their children to become better Muslims and maintaining harmonious connection with their relatives etc.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125
📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "I was shown the Hellfire and (found) that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 29
In-book reference: Book 2, Hadith 22
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 1, Book 2, Hadith 29 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

Tips: How We Should Treat shaytan And his demonic allies

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Suggested ways to treat our archenemy shaytan and his demonic allies, including those who act as obstacles to our goals: 
1] Occasionally educate yourself about them for Allah's sake through reliable sources. Understand well their motives. Be aware of all their tactics and schemes. 
2] Refuse to be influenced by them in any way. Do not instantly believe or take too seriously most of what they do and claim. 
3] Do not wish to be like them. Do not imitate their negative and unpleasant traits. They don't deserve to be admired. You're a lot better than them because of your faith Imaan and special connection with Allah the Almighty. 
4] Do the exact opposite of what they want or expect you to do. Disobey their instructions if their orders entail disobedience to our Creator Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. Stubbornly ignore enemies' commands and suggestions to carry out anything that is evidently immoral or unreasonable.
5] Avoid their bad presence as much as you can online and offline. Do not pay attention to any of their social media posts, comments and videos etc. especially if your attentiveness to their nonsense only inflates their contemptible egos. Refrain from befriending them without being naive of their foul intentions.
6] As much as possible resist the urge to compliment them. Do not display signs of granting approval to their actions unless giving them some flattering words is your technique of deluding or confusing them. 
7] Never trust them. Sworn enemies and potential foes must never be trusted.
8] Warn your loved ones against opponents whenever you can. 
9] Increase your Du'as to Allah the Most Powerful, asking Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for more guidance and protection from shaytan's evil plots. 
~•~
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”
Source: ‘Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

Tuesday, December 13, 2022

Note: How Most INTJs Deal With Gossipers Who Act Friendly - Grant Them Avoidance And Indifference

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Question: As a Muslimah whose MBTI personality type is INTJ, one of the most unemotional types, how would you treat individuals who generally act friendly towards you while you recall those instances when you overheard them cowardly gossiping about you?
📝 Answer: Whether the unpleasant statements which they mentioned about me carry some truth, for example "she's so annoying; always expressing her opinions", "you're right, she does stink", or "I absolutely hate how she makes me feel inferior" etc. (as they either envy my marriage, Alhamdulillah, or they're ignorant of the ruling of backbiting in Islam) or whatever they often discuss among themselves are nonsensical lies such as falsely assuming I'm a "tomboy (dyke)" or a "self-entitled dictator" etc. I would: 
1] Include them in a long list or category of individuals whom I can no longer trust or who are confirmed to be completely untrustworthy, so I keep my distance from them, as much as possible, almost in the same way as falcons would steer clear of flying around wolves and lions won't bother socializing with anacondas. 
2] Continue displaying basic good manners towards them while refraining from attempting to develop the connection due to their untrustworthiness and awful addiction to backbiting about others. 
3] Take most of their utterances and dubious info they share online with a grain of salt, aware that a lot of what they say could be nonsense and pretentious fabrications. If they promise or agree to do something, I wouldn't expect too much from them since they seem to be pros at being unreliable - in my opinion. 
4] Imagine them as one of those products at some grocery stores which I'm uninterested in purchasing because they're irrelevant to my lifestyle choices and/or they are mostly a bad influence. Disliking them for Allah's sake doesn't necessitate that I discard them whenever I come across them, no, specially if I'm not the one managing the store. I'd simply walk past them, visualizing them as distractions or obstacles which aren't beneficial to me at all. 
5] Regard them as examples of lousy behavior to avoid.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good or remain silent. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his neighbor. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his guest."
In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Let him not harm his neighbor.”
And in another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Let him uphold family ties.”
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5672, Sahih Muslim 47
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do you know who is the bankrupt?" They said, “The one without money or goods is bankrupt.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the bankrupt of my nation are those who come on the Day of Resurrection with prayers, fasting, and charity, but also with insults, slander (gossiping, spreading rumors, and backbiting), consuming wealth, shedding blood (committing murder), and beating others. The oppressed (those whom they unfairly mistreated) will each be given from his good deeds. If his (the oppressor's) good deeds run out before justice is fulfilled, then their sins will be cast upon him and he (the oppressor who treated them wrongly) will be thrown into Jahannam/Hell."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2581
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever wrongs his brother in his honor or anything else should resolve the matter today before it cannot be resolved with gold and silver coins. If he has good deeds to his credit, they will be taken from him according to the measure of his injustice. If he has no good deeds left, he will bear the evil deeds of the one he has oppressed."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2317
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

Monday, December 12, 2022

Note: Can Muslims Attend "Xmas" Parties?

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Some notes on how to interact well with non-Muslims, 
Whether they're non-Muslim relatives, colleagues, students, 
Neighbors, strangers, salespersons, or casual acquaintance: 
One: Treat them decently. Know they're Allah's creation. 
Use mercy and justice in your general dealings. 
~•~
Do your best to maintain good manners when they're present, 
And when they're absent, refrain from needless gossiping. 
With Muslims or non-Muslims, Allah is still watching, 
While nearby at all times, there are angels recording.
Abstain from all forms of injustice and oppression.
~•~
Two: If you like them, if they happen to be loved ones, 
If their well-mannered conduct invites admiration, 
Then do them a favor, show them the true religion, 
Share with them your knowledge of Islam and right guidance, 
And mention them in Du'as, pray that Allah guides them.
~•~
Recall the Sahabas (RadhiAllahu 'anhum). Most started as non-Muslims, 
Formerly they abhorred and showed fierce opposition 
To Allah's Messenger Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) and the Muslims, 
Until Allah the Most Kind saved them from misguidance, 
Enlightened them and promised them with Jannah's entrance.
~•~
Three: While treating non-Muslims with civilized treatment, 
Value your faith and don't stray from Islamic teachings. 
Don't partake in their festivals and celebrations, 
Because you're a Muslim, not because you're arrogant. 
True good character is also kind invitation.
~•~
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The merciful will be shown mercy by the Most Merciful. Be merciful to those on the earth and the One (Allah) in the heavens will have mercy upon you."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1924
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi
📖 Sahl Ibn Sa'd RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "By Allah, that Allah guides a man through you is better for you than a herd of expensive red camels."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2847 
Sahih Muslim 2406
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever imitates a people is one of them."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4031
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Gabriel (Angel Jibreel 'alaihis salaam) did not stop advising me to treat neighbors well until I thought he would make them my heirs."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5669 
Sahih Muslim 2625
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Gabriel (Angel Jibreel 'alaihis salaam) kept advising me to be good to neighbors until I thought he would make them my heirs."
Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 3674
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
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Saturday, December 10, 2022

Tips: 3 Dos And 3 Don'ts Regarding Individuals Who Are Incompatible With You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: At school there are a number of individuals whom I do not like at all because of how unreliable, irresponsible, uncooperative, dishonest and unmannerly they've proven to be. What can I do to cope with their negative presence? 
📝 Answer: Some tips on dealing with individuals who are incompatible with you, especially if they never sincerely apologized for several mistakes they did or they continue doing something which you regard as toxic:- 
✅ Three dos: 
1] Maintain basic good manners with them for Allah's sake, being cordial acquaintances only, not intending to form an actual connection.
☑️ For example: When they greet you with the salaam, confidently respond to their greeting with a polite smile. 
2] Be honest and truthful with them as much as you can, for Allah's sake. 
☑️ For instance: If they ask for your feedback concerning an outfit which they bought recently or they wish to know what your opinion is on a project they presented, and you genuinely think it's interesting or notable somehow, let them know the truth instead of imitating them in being untruthful. 
3] Unapologetically avoid them for Allah's sake online and offline to shield your emotional and religious well-being.
☑️ Refrain from sitting too near them whenever you can, and don't bother checking any of their status updates, YouTube channel, and/or Facebook page/s etc. which can't add a single value to your faith/Imaan. 

❌ Three don'ts:
🚫 1} As much as possible, do not backbite or gossip about individuals whom you can't stand, even if you assume that a joke or certain information could appease your ego. 
🚫 2} Do not intentionally exclude them from group activities or meetings which they are supposed to partake in. While it is understandable that you don't enjoy talking to them, probably due to language barrier or you've decided to not trust them anymore, your grudge mustn't cause you to act like an emotionally wounded, insecure and unhappy bully. 
🚫 3} As much as possible, do not go out of your way to inquire about their personal lives, particularly if they are known for frequently inventing lies. Don't force yourself to prolong conversations with strangers who make you feel uncomfortable.
~•~
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is only that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell (pleasant scent). As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi