Note: Eleven Out Of Many Loving Things Which My Dear Husband Has Done As An ESFJ-A

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💚 Eleven cute and sweet things which my dear husband has done, as an ESFJ 3w2, that inspired me to love him even more for Allah's sake (Alhamdulillah):

1🔹 Frequently cooking and preparing many of our meals during the first weeks of us getting married (our marriage Alhamdulillah took place in Shawwaal, after Ramadan. He was 28 while I was 20 that time) Alhamdulillah while I set the table and did the dishes.

2🔹 Playing badminton with me before he became busy with work and being admirably patient with how I'm not really good at sports in general. 

3🔹 Answering a lot of my questions whenever he's in the mood to talk even if some of them are so random and weird. 

4🔹 Feeling visibly upset when he tried his best to send me with one of his cars to the house of a Tausug family for a visit and he had a tough time searching for their residence, then looking so concerned when I told him it's okay I can try walking to their place since it's not far away. 

5🔹 Cheerfully making the Korean finger heart gesture when saying goodbye to us after we quickly visited him at the clinic where he works as a medical doctor. 

6🔹 Thoughtfully reminding me to make sure that I pray all of my prayers as properly as I can with Khushoo' tranquility. 

7🔹 Encouraging me to be more lenient, empathic and understanding towards others. 

8🔹 Easily telling jokes and observing how his cute sense of humor makes him more handsome whenever he tries to share some smiles and laughter. 

9🔹 Regularly buying souvenirs for his family and loved ones after arriving from a long trip or travel (even for some of his colleagues at the clinic he works in) whenever he can afford (like when he traveled to China some years ago and Saudi Arabia recently).

10🔹 Accepting some of the strange requests I often ask him to do like that time when I asked him to have his voice recorded so I can use his recording as the sound for my cellphone alarm and when he accepted my invitation to take some MBTI personality and enneagram tests online.

11🔹 When he lovingly demonstrated and taught me how to wash clothes by hand (including several of my niqabs) since I was more accustomed to using the washing machine back in Riyadh city.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best of you are the best to their women."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 1978

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://abukhadeejah.com/characteristics-of-a-righteous-wife-in-light-of-the-quran-and-sunnah-part-1/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/note-esfj-husband-and-intj-wife.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/12/note-how-intj-wife-connects-with-her.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/note-esfj-husband-and-intj-wife.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/a-better-understanding-of-the-esfj-male/

https://personalityhunt.com/esfj-3w2-the-complete-guide/ 

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Poem: Says This INTJ - So What If I Don't Have Many Friends? Integrity Matters, Not Fakery

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Dear fellow Muslimah, dear fellow human being, 

Never feel "unworthy" nor question your self-esteem

If your pals are not many, if you don't have a team, 

Or if you've been kicked out of a group chat recently. 

We're here to serve Allah, not ensure His slaves are pleased.

~•~

Because not all people were brought up similarly, 

And since most of humankind are prone to jealousy, 

Prone to comparing their journeys to others' stories, 

Let's not expect to be liked by everyone we meet. 

It's true that not all souls connect with everybody.

~•~

One who's "besties" with all would be illusionary, 

An actor who's untrustworthy in reality, 

Devoid of values and beliefs they keep steadfastly, 

And lacking opinions or responsibilities, 

So they're always available, ready to agree.

~•~

Does that type of person exist? Only in a dream. 

Only in dreams or imaginations one may see 

Characters who vibe with everyone submissively. 

Even the Prophet Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) himself was demeaned 

By those guilty of misbelief and hypocrisy.

~•~

So don't worry if our close friends are not that many. 

Making and keeping friends can be tough at times when we 

Stick to what we value while our traits trigger envy. 

In some societies if you're unique and sincere, 

Just few can understand you and match your energy.

~•~

And that's okay - not being liked by everybody. 

No way were we put on earth to be carbon copies. 

If ever you encounter someone who "feels sorry" 

That you sometimes appear "alone", "left out" or "lonely", 

Stay firm and unaffected by their absurdity.

~•~

Be like: So what if you think I'm "lonesome"? You clearly 

Reveal ignorance if you claim that large quantity

Of something implies its quality. That's just silly. 

Contentment with Allah's Love while having less friends means 

Less gossip and more free time to please Allah Only.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim  

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

https://abukhadeejah.com/only-true-friends-and-righteous-companions-will-benefit-you/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-stay-connected-to-allah-and-youll.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/02/tips-how-to-tell-if-some-souls-werent.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-three-reasons-why-our-vibes.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/note-eleven-qualities-of-good-muslim.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/note-differences-between-people-who.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/note-some-factors-which-could-prevent.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/06/note-five-reasons-why-maintaining.html 

Hadith: Pray To Allah The Most Merciful And Ask Allah To Make Us Among Those Whom The Noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam Intercede For

Allah the Almighty knows best.

📖 'Awf Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A visitor came to me from my Lord (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) and gave me the choice between half of my nation entering (Jannah) Paradise or the intercession (shafaa'ah) in the Hereafter. I chose the intercession, and it is for whoever dies (upon Tawheed) without associating partners with Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala).”

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2441

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Tips: Nine Comebacks When You're Told To Shut Up Or Stop Talking

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Some comebacks when someone unreasonably tells you to "shut up" or "stop talking": 

1🔹 "Why should I obey your instruction?" 

2🔹 "I don't need the permission of anybody to speak or express my opinions. If you can't welcome freedom of expression, simply do not listen." 

3🔹 "You're just afraid of the truth. You don't want to spoil your delusions or misjudgment." 

4🔹 "Is that what your parents used to say whenever they caught you lying or misbehaving? Instead of training you to be a good listener, they instructed you to love silent treatment? I feel sorry for your neglect and lousy upbringing."

5🔹 "Is that your usual response when confronted with the truth? Why are you attached to ignorance?"

6🔹 "I can talk whenever I want to. Ordering me to be quiet doesn't change anything." 

7🔹 "Somebody has to say something to rectify ignorance. True speech must get involved. I don't want my loved ones to be like you in being delusional and misinformed."

8🔹 "Yes, I forgive you and your arrogant refusal to listen." 

9🔹 "Don't worry. You're forgiven - you and your ignorance."

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah (The Almighty) than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-on-fearing-only-allah-almighty.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/tips-eleven-signs-you-have-strong.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/03/tips-eleven-tips-to-become-more.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/09/note-seven-signs-youre-confident-and.html  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/02/note-adult-bullies-and-mean-girls-dont.html 

Tips: When Some Call You "Weird", Say "Whatever" Or Stay Unaffected

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Thirteen comebacks when someone calls you "weird", "so strange" or "weirdo":

1🔹 "And? You're annoying. Please stop being immature, or display your immaturity somewhere else." 

2🔹 "You think I'm weird? I find you plain and boring. 'Tis better to stand out with confidence than be ordinary and uninteresting."

3🔹 "So? There's nothing wrong with looking weird as long as I believe I'm doing the right thing." 

4🔹 "Congratulations! Is that a new adjective you've learned today? What about checking the definitions of these words: ignorant, judgmental, unwholesome, interfering, unbecoming? Or check out your reflection to comprehend their meanings."

5🔹 "You're same old same old - so sad." 

6🔹 "Being weird isn't a crime, now is it? Then again your ego has probably been offended. I'm sorry that you're bothered by my awesomeness. I didn't know you were insecure and oversensitive." 

7🔹 "Where in the world's encyclopedias and legal systems does it state I'm not allowed to be weird? If my weirdness bothers you, simply buzz off, mind your own business and quit babbling nonsense." 

8🔹 "And you're the normal one? Your parents' apparent failure to educate you a single thing about good manners and basic ethics is not normal, silly." 

9🔹 "Is that supposed to be insulting? Was I supposed to cry? It would be more depressing if I were you, stuck with a dull personality and an aimless life."

10🔹 "Look at yourself calling me "weird" while you're the clown often sticking your nose into the lives of strangers who have nothing to do with you, and until now you can't act your age? Shame on you." 

11🔹 "As if I care. Yeah, I am weird, and you mean nothing to me." 

12🔹 "Are you rehearsing your marriage proposal? Don't call a potential spouse weird, if you don't wish to remain single." 

13🔹 "So what? I'm fine if you perceive me as a weirdo. Are your parents and ancestors okay with you acting like an unprincipled and uncivilized jerko?"

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Islam began as something strange and it will return to being strange, so (Tooba / glad tidings to) blessed are the strangers."

Source: Sahih Muslim 145

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "We are now in this day. Blessed are the strangers." It was said, “O Messenger of Allah, who are the strangers?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Righteous people among many evil (wicked, misguided) people. Those who disobey them are more numerous than those who obey them."

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ahmed Shakir 

https://abukhadeejah.com/who-are-the-true-ghuraba-the-strangers-in-these-times-islam-began-as-something-strange-and-it-will-return-to-being-strange-just-as-it-began/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/poem-go-for-allahs-love-and-mercy-not.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-live-to-please-only-allah-almighty.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/01/poem-dont-fear-being-different-as-long.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-ghurabaastrangers-among-muslims.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/06/tips-what-to-do-when-told-you-are-so.html