Tips: Bad Qualities Which Would Cause A Person To Be Undeserving Of Your Trust And Loyalty

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Five qualities if found in some individuals would prevent them from being "friendworthy" - they do not deserve your trust and loyalty: 

1❎ Jealous / envious. 

Deep conversations and meaningful connections are impossible to have with those who intensely envy everything about you. You can sense that an acquaintance envies you when they mostly treat you disrespectfully and deliberately exclude you from social gatherings which they initiate, desperate to upset you whenever possible so their disconcerting jealousy overwhelms them less.

2❎ Ignorant / delusional. 

You can't form a stable friendship with someone who insists on doing what's illogical or they see nothing wrong with commiting crimes and acts of bid'ah (religious innovation such as pointlessly participating in birthday celebrations and sculpting or sketching images of living beings etc.). 

3❎ Cowardly / insecure. 

Don't expect an inwardly sad person who frequently acts passive-aggressive towards you and feels so afraid or ashamed to discuss with you serious issues to be reliable. They're likely to abandon you in the future when they notice you in any sort of trouble. 

4❎ Egotistic / narcissistic. 

Long-lasting friendship, support, genuine respect, integrity and reliability can never be expected from somebody who is a lot more obsessed with their wants and overinflated ego than they're concerned with your faith Imaan, safety and overall well-being. 

5❎ Untruthful / deceitful / fake / inauthentic / phoney. 

Why waste your lifetime, attention and energy on clowns who regularly invent lies to impress themselves, too often pretend to be whom they aren't, and even the most deceptive of counterfeit products and forged documents worldwide would be less pathetic than the fables they make up for their selfish agenda.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is only that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell (pleasant scent). As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Ibn Hibban reported: Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "A righteous companion is better than solitude, and solitude is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawḍat Al-‘Uqalā’ 56

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Tips: Advice On How To Tell If You've Married The Right Man

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: Are there any signs indicating that I've married the right guy or the most ideal man for me? How can I tell for sure that I'm in a blessed marriage? 

📝 Answer: Allah the Almighty knows best. You can sense that Allah the Most Wise blessed you with an ideal husband when:- 

1] ...it's absolutely easy to forgive your spouse for Allah's sake no matter how many times his responses to a number of your text messages are delayed, how often he may talk to you with an annoyed tone of voice, and how sometimes he forgets to comply with some of your requests simply because he's a human being who goes through various challenges at times just like you etc. Even if he didn't apologize directly for a certain mistake he's done, you've already forgiven him wholeheartedly.

2] ...almost every night and day, you find yourself mentioning his name lovingly in a lot of your Du'as/supplications and prayers. 

3] ...you can't stop yourself from missing your other half and soulmate whenever he's not around. Oftentimes when you're having a meal, when attending a gathering, when outdoors, a few minutes before sleeping, and even while doing the laundry or dishes, you literally miss your husband and wish he was nearby, particularly to observe your fierce loyalty towards him at all times. 

4] ...every time you notice several couples online and offline flaunting how joyful they are in their love life, instead of feeling envious and insecure, you're actually inspired to appreciate and persistently respect your husband even more for Allah's sake. 

5] ...you're truly unable to feel jealous whenever somebody brags about their marriage story or expresses their admiration for spouses with plenty of children. For instance, if someone tells you "so-and-so got married to a Turkish Muslim", "she and her new husband with their twin newborns reside in a ginormous mansion" and "her Saudi partner is taking her to South Korea this vacation", your reaction would be like "good for her. What's important is that she's contented from the heart and their marriage ultimately, with Allah's Will, leads to Jannah Paradise. As for me, Alhamdulillah, my contentment with the man whom Allah the Most Loving wisely chose as my soulmate and husband is undebatable, undeniable and not artificial at all. He's the only soul in the entire universe whom I'm in love with and, if truth be told, I don't regret marrying him for Allah's sake at all." 

6] ...you and others have observed that ever since you willingly accepted your husband's marriage proposal for Allah's sake, the level of your faith Imaan has increased significantly and remarkably. 

7] ...there's a strong probability of not wanting to marry anybody else but him if ever he decides to split up with you for whatever reason. You'd rather have a second and third wedding / Nikaah with him for Allah's sake in the future than to begrudgingly search for a different man.

~•~

📖 Thawbaan RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbaan 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Poem: The Type Of Woman I'd Like To Be If Possible

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 To join the good souls whom Allah the Most Powerful

Loves and always guides to Him is one of my life goals. 

The qualities which I believe are admirable

In a Muslimah are those which make her capable

Of striving towards Jannah with faith unshakable.

~•~

I'm still a work in progress; I'm not infallible, 

Yet I'm trying my best to do what is feasible. 

The kind of woman whom I regard as notable

And worthy of emulation is one who's able

To sacrifice her pride for deeds more profitable.

~•~

She trusts Allah, she's not overly emotional, 

And by fluctuating feelings she is not controlled. 

She doesn't act on envy, she's not unreasonable, 

And by this world's brief enjoyment she is not enthralled.

She lives to serve Allah, not to please people at all.

~•~

The type of woman I'd like to be, if possible, 

Is one who never feels tired or fatigued when stressful

Situations arise so she can do more worthwhile

Actions which lead to Jannah but that's impossible - 

I feel exhausted at times; I'm not invincible -

~•~

But I won't quit serving Allah the Most Merciful

Who sees my eagerness to do what is essential

For my soul to succeed in both worlds. With Allah's Will, 

I'll do whatever I can to achieve my life goals, 

And ignore shaytan's pleas to give up sincere efforts.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do good deeds only as much as you are able, for the best deeds are those done regularly (consistently) even if they are few."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4240

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There is no envy but in two cases: A man whom Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) has given wealth and he spends it rightly in Allah's Way, and a man whom Allah has given wisdom and he acts upon it and teaches with it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 73, Sahih Muslim 816

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best of women among the people of Paradise are Khadija bint Khuwaylid (RadhiAllahu 'anha), Fatimah bint Muhammad (RadhiAllahu 'anha), Maryam bint 'Imraan ('alaihas salaam) and 'Aasiyah bint Muzahim ('alaihas salaam) the wife of fir'awn."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 2896

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Poem: If We're Too Different, We Won't Connect, And I'm Not Bothered By It.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ I'm unsurprised when certain souls and I can't connect, 

Like when wood and plastic stay still when placed near magnets. 

When actors with foul motives or clowns who are depressed

Meet one who's authentic and grateful for Allah's gifts, 

Don't expect them to become besties. They won't connect...

~•~

....Souls won't connect if they don't share the same interests, 

If the languages they speak invite frequent conflict

And their conflicting vibes mostly trigger awkwardness, 

Like when a turtle would hide or stare with nervousness

Upon seeing creatures bigger or stronger than it.

~•~

Some females and I can't click? I'm not bothered by it. 

This one glorifies divorce offline and in public, 

While I encourage myself and loyal wives to keep 

Loving with patience the man whom Allah selected 

As your soulmate. Don't take a blessed marriage for granted.

~•~

And that one ...with this one, they're so materialistic, 

Interested in amassing joys which are short-lived, 

While I prefer to join the few whom Allah guided

To strive for true success and Jannah's eternal bliss.

The wise don't incline to those who live like slugs and pigs.

~•~

To guess that a person's "lonely" for not posting pics 

Of their group outings and trips online is as stupid

As suspecting a couple's love if they don't have kids. 

We're here to serve Allah, not to build many friendships.

I feel no shame in being cautious and selective.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Ibn Hibban reported: Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "A righteous companion is better than solitude, and solitude is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawḍat Al-‘Uqalā’ 56

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Tips: Why Some Loved Ones Can't Always Answer Your Messages In A Timely Manner

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📝 Seven probable reasons why someone who cares about you for Allah's sake (such as your spouse, sibling, relatives or colleague etc.) may not always answer your messages in a timely manner, so forgive them when their responses are delayed sometimes: 

1] Maybe they actually typed their response and pressed the "send" or "submit" button but their internet connection was unstable at that time or unknowingly they weren't connected to a WiFi network for some reason. 

2] Maybe they typed a message and sent their response but due to some temporary glitches or technical issues in the messaging application from their side or yours, some of their messages failed to reach your inbox. 

3] They probably responded but somebody who has access to your gadgets may have borrowed your cellphone and deleted their messages from your inbox for some reason, possibly due to intensely despising the sender or they believe that deleting unnecessary, irrelevant or incomprehensible messages would make inboxes appear more organized. 

4] There could be a possibility that they noticed your new messages and quickly opened the message thread or conversation panel but something else came up when they were about to respond to you. Maybe they were distracted by one of their children, nieces, nephews or an infant they were entrusted with, or they had to take an important phonecall or video call until they eventually forgot to answer your messages. 

5] Perhaps they've just had an argument with a loved one and they felt too upset or agitated to answer your messages after skimming through their inbox. 

6] Perhaps they're seriously struggling with overwork or depression and their stress or bad mood prevents them from feeling enthusiastic about answering every message they receive. 

7] Maybe they're one of those lazy or traditional individuals who aren't interested in typing messages, whether lengthy or concise, and they are more comfortable with talking to you face to face. 

If you truly love a Muslim for Allah's sake, you wouldn't easily abandon them even if they aren't very communicative at times.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the most false of tales. Do not seek out faults, do not spy on each other, do not contend with each other, do not envy each other, do not hate each other, and do not turn away from each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5719

Sahih Muslim 2563

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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