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If a woman receives several marriage proposals and she keeps rejecting them
simply because the suitors don't look as handsome as the K-pop icons or
Bollywood actors whom she finds are more good-looking, it may take a very long
time for her to find an ideal husband. When you're waiting for Allah's
Qadr/Decree to get married, saying Du'as frequently and praying to Allah the
Most Wise to grant you a pious spouse, and that time finally comes when your
guardians or parents inform you of a guy who's interested in marrying you, and
you both get to see each other in a formal setting while some mahrams are
around, don't mainly judge him by how tall, muscular or physically attractive
he is. As long as his Aqeedah is sound/correct, he has the financial capability
to support you, and his looks are decent enough, then you could consider him as
a potential soulmate after you've prayed two Sunnah Rak'ahs of Salat
Al-Istikhaarah and you're willing to say yes.
Your decision to agree to a man's marriage proposal shouldn't be based on whether or not there is "chemistry" between you or you've felt mutual "love at first sight". In Islam, true love is learned and experienced only after marriage.
After marrying him for Allah's sake, with sincere intention to complete the other half of your Deen or to raise a righteous Muslim family together, you gradually fall in love with each other.
Some of the things that if your husband does would trigger you to be intensely attracted to him include:
1) Being enthusiastic to learn more about Islam from you or with you.
2) Reminding you to pray on time, to wear the hijab and dress modestly.
3) Encouraging you to forgive others and to maintain good ties with your family.
4) Being a fun-loving friend who's playful with you and cheerfully making lighthearted jokes to see you happy.
5) Patiently listening to your complaints and rants, then coaching you to stay patient.
6) Showing you his gentle side when he enjoys playing with cats and children.
7) Surprising you with romantic gestures like a tight hug, a sweet text message, a calming massage, cooking a meal or taking you out to a restaurant.
8) Preferring you without make-up and not criticizing any of your flaws.
9) Displaying a healthy amount of gheerah or protective jealousy if he notices you speaking to non-mahram men like staff and salespersons.
Once you fall in love with your husband's soul, faith/Imaan and personality, you won't regret being his wife, regardless of the age gap or he doesn't meet everyone's high expectations. You can be grateful to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala that He chose for you a special lover through whom you're trained to excel in patience, contentment and realization that this dunya isn't permanent.
Jannah Paradise is where you can reunite forever with your husband and view his perfect version.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials on the earth and the spread of corruption."
Source: Sunan Al-Tirmidhi 1084
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
Your decision to agree to a man's marriage proposal shouldn't be based on whether or not there is "chemistry" between you or you've felt mutual "love at first sight". In Islam, true love is learned and experienced only after marriage.
After marrying him for Allah's sake, with sincere intention to complete the other half of your Deen or to raise a righteous Muslim family together, you gradually fall in love with each other.
Some of the things that if your husband does would trigger you to be intensely attracted to him include:
1) Being enthusiastic to learn more about Islam from you or with you.
2) Reminding you to pray on time, to wear the hijab and dress modestly.
3) Encouraging you to forgive others and to maintain good ties with your family.
4) Being a fun-loving friend who's playful with you and cheerfully making lighthearted jokes to see you happy.
5) Patiently listening to your complaints and rants, then coaching you to stay patient.
6) Showing you his gentle side when he enjoys playing with cats and children.
7) Surprising you with romantic gestures like a tight hug, a sweet text message, a calming massage, cooking a meal or taking you out to a restaurant.
8) Preferring you without make-up and not criticizing any of your flaws.
9) Displaying a healthy amount of gheerah or protective jealousy if he notices you speaking to non-mahram men like staff and salespersons.
Once you fall in love with your husband's soul, faith/Imaan and personality, you won't regret being his wife, regardless of the age gap or he doesn't meet everyone's high expectations. You can be grateful to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala that He chose for you a special lover through whom you're trained to excel in patience, contentment and realization that this dunya isn't permanent.
Jannah Paradise is where you can reunite forever with your husband and view his perfect version.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials on the earth and the spread of corruption."
Source: Sunan Al-Tirmidhi 1084
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
